justaskluis

Sup!

Welcome to my personal space in this new, spiffy blog. My name is
Luis and I am here to make sure all of my readers are making the right
decisions in the “Relationship” department. No no no, I’m not like
that cougar in that chick flik Sex and the City, dear Lord I’m not
like her ( I wouldn’t know I haven’t watched the movie / show). Just
think of me as your wingman that is there to give you advice with the
ladies in tricky situations. Why should you trust me? If you have read
this far, you probably need a little help with the females. Also,
you’re listening to the guy who has done everything right AND wrong
when it comes to relationships. Not to fear friends…I’ve got your
back. Instead of me blabbing on and on about relationships, I have
chosen to structure my section in question and answer format. Ask me
anything and I will do my best to answer and guide you in the right
direction.

What I plan to achieve…

1. Make sure you are never THAT guy (no one EVER wants to be THAT guy)

2. Get you out of that slump you call a relationship (if thats what
you are looking for)

3. Get your relationship moving in the right track.

4. Double make sure you are never THAT guy.

5. Who knows…maybe get yourself that date with that girl you’ve been
eyeing for so long.

Q. What is technically cheating?

A. Ha. Although we all come from different backgrounds and we all have
different morals (if any), this question in the end comes down to your
judgement. My answer? It depends. Watching porn by yourself while your
significant other is asleep or away for the weekend? Not cheating,
then again if you have to watch porn you may want to reevaluate that
relationship of yours. Going to a strip club with the guys and getting
a lap dance? Ehhh, not cheating (although your gf / wife may be pissed
off when she smells cheap perfume on you when you’re dragging your
tail into bed at 3 a.m.). Doing something with a girl that is not your
gf / wife (physically), DEFINITELY cheating. Lets just say this, if
you feel guilty, if you have to sneak around, if you can not tell your
other half about your actions, AND you would not want your babe doing
the same thing behind your back..that’s cheating.

Q. Is it okay for my girlfriend to have a bunch of single guy friends?

A. Heres where I try and make you “not be THAT guy”. Let’s face it, a
lot of girls have a lot of guy friends, why? Girls tend to cause way
more drama than guys do, and they don’t have to worry about stupid,
pointless, drunk catfights all the time with men. So, you’ve finally
snagged the girl of your dreams and she has a lot of guy friends. So
what? It’s okay to ask her if shes had a past with any of the guys, I
mean come on, no one wants to let their girlfriend / wife hang out
with the guy that used to pound her vaj for kicks in the summer of
08′. In that aspect, it’s okay to voice some concern about that
certain friend of hers. The last thing you want to do though, is be
the jealous guy that does not allow her to keep the friends she had
before you guys made it official. If she is running to them instead of
you for everything, you might need to voice your concern about that
situation, afterall you are the boyfriend and that is what you are
there for. In the end, yes its okay for your girlfriend to have guy
friends, once they start hanging out more than you and her do, that’s
when you need to speak up and see whats going on.

Q. How do you know when your girlfriend / wife is cheating?

A. This is probably one of the toughest things to figure out in a
relationship. In my experience, when I had that gut feeling she was
cheating, she turned out to be cheating. Now now, lets not jump to
conclusions here, that “gut feeling” could just be that taqueria you
had earlier talking. Some things to look for are: a change in the
normal routine you’ve had going for awhile, talking to her “mother” a
lot more than usual, not showing as much affection as usual, and what
tipped me off the most was, what I call…Guilty Conscience Syndrome.
One day my ex just started accusing me of talking to other girls,
dating other girls behind her back, talking on the phone with other
girls, and (insert random accusation here) with other girls. Usually
when you know you have not done any of the above, you’ve walked a
straight line, and have done every thing you can to make someone happy
yet they’re accusing you of all these things, it turns out the other
party may be guilty of cheating. The best thing to do is be straight
up with eachother, the more you’re an ass to her, the more reason she
has to leave you if not cheat on you. Just keep your eyes open and if
you have questions, just ask her and communicate. Sometimes we get
stuck with a lemon, if shes cheating…your next and only move is to
dump her and move on and NEVER look back. Once a cheater, always a
cheater. We can always forgive, but never do we forget. IF you decide
to forgive her and try and work things out, I give it a few months (at
most) before you realize, hey..I don’t need her anymore. Trust me, you
will be miserable if you do not just walk away.

Cheers,

Luis.

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